There is no life I know
To compare with pure imagination
Living there, you’ll be free
If you truly wish to be
– Willy Wonka
My 6 year old loves the show “Wild Kratts”. Apparently the brothers that host this animal show had a show back in the 90’s but I missed seeing these guys in their younger years. Now, as middle aged hosts, they start out the show in live action and then transition into a cartoon fantasy format for the remainder of the show. To transition from real life to fantasy, they loudly proclaim to the young viewer:
Those two words are the keys to our imagination.
Motherhood is breeding ground for a scarcity mindset. We start out our parenting journey with deprivation. We are thrust into a world of sleep deprivation and around the clock hyper-responsiveness to a helpless baby who needs an adult. For many reasons, this sleep deprivation and responsiveness falls to mothers in the early months, and often transitions into permanent inequality in the home when it comes to child care and housework. Housing costs and child care costs and death and divorce and all the things that add up to the extreme messiness of life ends up convincing us that we can never have what we want; that there will never be enough money, time or energy to live our good lives.
But what if it didn’t have to be this way?
What if not only could we climb our way out of being overwhelmed, but we could actually live our good lives now? Not when we have a nanny and housekeeper, not when we have our bills paid off, not when we have total equality in the house, not when we have a the perfect supportive village around us, not when the floors are mopped, but NOW?