5 second rule. This
is from Mel Robbins who has a ton of videos on youtube. Idea is that the moment you think of a goal
or something you want to/need to do, your brain will start to talk you out of
doing it. You have 5 seconds before your
brain starts trying to talk you out of doing what you need to do. So the moment you think of what you need to
do, you say “5-4-3-2-1” then do it before your brain talks you out of it. She has really good talks about how no one is
ever motivated to do the crap that they don’t want to do; you have to find
other systems to get you to do this stuff.
She also talks about the power of starting your day in the right way.
Wake up when the alarm goes off. Hitting the snooze button repeatedly is
counterproductive and starts the day off on a downward spiral because 1) quality
of sleep while the alarm is repeatedly going off over and over again is poor
and 2) its demoralizing to think “I’ll get up in 10 minutes” and then just hit
the snooze button over and over again.
It’s like starting the day off by failing at your very first goal. If your first goal of the day is to get up
when the alarm goes off, sticking to that goal starts your day off with a
feeling of success. There are lots of
ways to help get up with the alarm goes off (Mel Robbins 5 second rule; placing
the alarm far enough away from where you sleep that you can’t mindlessly hit
the snooze button while laying in bed.)
Make your bed. Doesn’t
need to be perfect, just something that looks somewhat decent. Starts
your day off with accomplishing another goal, and helps your room look good
all day. Also provides a nice looking spot
to turn to at the end of the day.
Time alone in the morning – try getting up 30 minutes before
everyone else gets up (if not 30 min, try even 15 minutes. Or try longer. Whatever you want to
try.) Have some quiet time alone doing
whatever you want – journal, drink a cup of coffee, read, listen to a podcast,
clean, make a list of your daily or weekly goals, use the time to take small
actions on goals etc. Try it for a few
weeks and see if this works for you. If
you try it and it doesn’t work for you, try this same idea but at night after the
kids are asleep.
Don’t feel guilty. Feeling
any guilt for being a working mother is bullshit, plain and simple. Being
a working mom shows your kids how to be a mom who can support herself and her
family and this is a crucial thing for your kids to learn.
Be very, very selective in what things you say Yes to, and
don’t feel guilt for the things you say No to. Think about what sorts of things
in your life you could maybe take off your plate, even if it takes time to get it
off your plate. For example, if you are
stressed and overwhelmed, don’t get a big pet like a dog, and don’t feel guilty
for telling your kids no. For me this
means never volunteering in my kids class at school, just as an example.
Writing down goals – often there is something powerful about
physically writing down your goals and actual paper journals or day planners
(even if just a basic 50 cent notebook) can help. Write down your goals, break them down into
smaller action items. Also, physically
writing down and doing a brain dump of every task that you have on your plate
can be a helpful exercise to declutter your mind.
Time blocking. Work on one thing at a time. If you have a day job, don’t try to work on
your side job at the same time that you are at work (with the exception of
lunch and other breaks at work – these blocks of time can be useful for working
on other projects.)